For anyone out there going through hard times because of infertility, I want to let them know, even in the darkest deepest time, there is always light waiting for you at the end of the tunnel. Understanding that your journey may not always be according to your dreams, but it will always guide you towards the family you have envisioned is the power that will allow you to go through this.
Our tale serves as the evidence that countless paths lead to parenthood, and each one is precious in their very own unique manner. We from that time decided to comfort all those going through the similar problems. Whether you have struggled with infertility, or are considering adopting, we request you share your torments with us through the comments. Let us delve deeper into this discussion about love, hope and resilience.
We didn’t plan on adopting. Like most couples, Austin and I thought of having children naturally like everyone do. However, after years of suffering from infertility and failed treatments, we reached a point where we know whatever we did we cannot conceive, uncertain of how to fulfill our dreams of becoming parents. That is when adoption came into the picture.
Adoption has been one of the most profound experiences of our life and is beautifully detailed in our memoir The Long Way Home. A Couple’s Journey to Parenthood explains how this experience changed our understanding of family. With each second, we were more excited yet more scared because it meant everything was about to change. In this moment, Austin and I felt unimaginable joy. Parker, our son, was waiting for us, and we were eagerly impatient to meet him.
The day we decided to adopt Parker was the day we renewed our personal and couple identity. It showed us how to truly love and connect with another person. Despite the long and tedious road leading to his adoption, which included countless hours of paperwork, interviews, and waiting, meeting our son for the first time made it all worth it. Adoption for us was not about bringing a child into our family, it was about a new beginning and capturing the unique bond that exists between parents and children regardless of how they come together.
We get to know that adoption is not about the child finding a home; but it is about parents learning to love in a different way. For anyone out there who is considering adoption or are further along in the process, know that you do not have to walk alone. There are many parents that hear you and understand your experiences as one filled with love and resilience.